Ever wondered why it is said that ‘Questions are the answers?’ What is it about some questions that make us think, and think again … and take actions which we probably would have not taken otherwise.
I experienced this with my coach – I would just be narrating what my experience of a particular situation had been, and she would pop up with a question which would halt me midway and make me think – think by chewing over words that I was speaking thus far, and also revisit the feelings that I had been experiencing. And more often that not, a few more questions would lead me to take a relook at my situation and come out more resourceful. More insightful.
We always live life looking for answers, whereas if we ask ourselves some powerful questions, we’d automatically come up with the answers. Isn’t that how children live? They question everything and either leave us thinking or get their answers by themselves.
The power of our solutions, after all, lies in the questions we ask ourselves. If we ask ourselves, ‘what is the problem?’ – then the problem is what we’ll get. If on the other hand, we ask ourselves, ‘what can I do to get to a solution?’ – a solution is what we may end up with. And even if we don’t get one immediately, the process of thinking of the solution would’ve started.
Let’s try this out – try asking yourself- ‘what am I grateful for today?’, ‘what is this present situation (whatever may be on your mind) teaching me?’. Go ahead, just stop for a moment and answer these. Whatever the situation, if we can ask ourselves what it is teaching us, we will always have some value addition from it, right?
And then try asking yourself, ‘which relationships enrich my life/which ones drain me out?’ And you’ll find that you can actually save yourself a lot of heartache by focusing on the enriching ones and maybe foregoing the ones that drain you. I suggest, just take a paper and a pen and list down the relationships that enrich your life and those that drain you – you’re sure to get a lot of clarity!
Ever felt that you are not being able to communicate to your colleagues, your spouse or your children? Try asking yourself – ‘What is my intention here? What am I really looking to do? Who am I being?’ This introspection may just surprise you!
As we ask ourselves these questions, we start to orient our minds towards what is useful for us. We start to look for ways to find answers and as we give honest answers, we start to feel a shift in our way of thinking.
Powerful questions make you think of possibilities and open up new vistas. If asked the right question, every situation in life turns into an opportunity – you just need to know what to ask yourself.
Some questions may make you step out of your comfort zone or may make you uncomfortable – but it is these questions which then change your life to what you desire it to be.
So go ahead, ask yourself a few great questions – or if that seems difficult, maybe a life coach could help you. Questions, truly are the best answers!